You Did Not Deserve Your Gender

So much of our experience of the world is gendered. Us men have mostly been able to ignore that throughout human history. Most men probably still do ignore it. (I am able to ignore it most of the time.)

Gender is natural, most of us receive either male or female sex organs. And those of us who get something in between usually get some kind of internal belief about our gender identity. (We know this because attempts to assign gender through socialization have been disastrous.)

So it should be no surprise that, for most of Christian/Western history anyway, most of us believed that there was nothing unfair about gender, it was just the order of things.

But here’s the thing: gender, like so much else in life, is accidental.

I didn’t do anything to deserve being a man. And you didn’t do anything to deserve your gender.

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